"The words of his mouth were smoother than butter, but war was in his heart: his words were softer than oil, yet were they drawn swords."
~King David in Psalms 55:21~
From my numerous years of study and research, I have found out that if there is one thing that plague sincere lovers, it is how to know a player, the cheat and the flirt. Most of them guise under some clean real dude with words smoother than butter and softer than oil yet with their swords they cut your pound of flesh, the real issue is not them but you, many of you become Merchants of Venice placing your love for sale, then so many Shylock were created out of the blues coming for your pound of flesh. You can play the blame game but the case is circularly causal and explained as follows:
A psychologist observed that teenagers given the opportunity, are as eager to prepare for marriage as they are to equip themselves for their career and life purpose. These eagerness is triggered when a teenager starts to feel some emotions he or she can't explain, when he or she starts having series of crushes that prompted into a boy and girl relationship.
Having seen their mom and dad, uncle and aunty together, they also crave for such too. And getting to high school, college, in the church and in the vicinity to see every youth in a relationship, this becomes enough validation that intimacy with a boy or girl is right. But most times the relationship that is meant to be platonic become intimate at the wrong time, thence young people not matured to handle love simply abuse it in a sexual intimacy.
The abuse will result to the wrong belief that love is hurtful after two or more unsuccessful relationship, they then see love as something no one can get right. Such a belief is much worse than the belief that the world was flat propagated by the 17th century scientists.
The wrong belief system that love is hurtful is being adopted when people after two or more unsuccessful relationships had to conclude such, without learning the real lessons.
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The real lesson is:
1. A man or a lady cannot love genuinely expect he or she is possessed with divine love. Agape, God's kind of love.
2. When God is love, People who don't believe in love, believe in manipulation. People need a moral barometer that regulates their behaviour. And that's how we see God in our lives. An ungodly person is wild like the hurricane, he will defile your temple.
3. You get possessed with divine love to the extent you enter into a love affair with your Creator firstly, who in turn eternally educate you on what love is, how love works, how to operate in it. And how to recognize it from afar. So that you are not weak, vulnerable, desperate and needy.
4. Everybody must learn how to singly wait, and realize that singleness is not thesame as loneliness, it is not the phase where you keep sexual mates, rather it is a phase where you fine turn your aptitude and attitude right and keep clean, good and nice platonic relationships.
5. When we fill our hunger for God with earthly pleasure of untimely relationships, our ability to place a distinct between lust and love and differentiate from a real man and a male will be stripper away from us and most people forget that we also have the male dog, male wolf, male ape, male chicken. That's why most guys behave like male dogs.
6. Without filling our yearning for God, we won't be able to distinct between a cheat, a flirt, a player and a real man because of the veil of vanity clouding our understanding. And only God can uncover you.
7. I learnt from Tammie that we cannot become what God wants us to be without knowing His plan. Investing in the knowledge of God, its free yet rewards bountifully.
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