CODE XX: FOR CODED FAMILY MEN

1). ADD THOUGHTFULLNESS TO PRESENTS: Society might tag value in quality and expensive things but to your wife, the more thought you add into a present, the more valuable it becomes. Don't always forget to think outside the box, the present might be your undivided attention, a present of a man free of bad habits. And minding the kids are well taken care of. 2). LISTEN: when you listen to what your wife says, she feels valued. she is reassured that her thoughts and feelings are important to you. The more you listen, the more she will trust, feel secured and confide more in you. 3). SMILE: when she wants to talk, welcome her with a smile so she won't feel that she is inconveniencing you. A smiling husband is sure to have a happy home. 4). BE A GOOD DETECTIVE: like any good detective, if you backtrack and follow the clues you will get to the bottom of what is really making her angry. when your wife grows silent, stopped smiling; check her-------its time to backtrack. 5). THANK HER thank your wife when she says something nice about you in public, and don't fail to tell her how beautiful that makes you feel. 6). SHE IS A MULTI-TASKER don't worry that you have lost her attention, when your woman gets into multi-task mode like our smart-phone. When she answers the calls, cook the meal and hanging Junior on her her hip. Please instead of get into a quarrel for this rather praise for such a wonderful skilland for her incredible ability to maximizing her precious time. 7). CHERISH THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN YOU BOTH one of you is practical, and the other is more free-spirited, and that keeps fun in your life and at the same time gives you control and order. one of you likes to clown around, and one of you likes to laugh. one of you likes to cry, and the other likes to comfort. one of you wants to touch, and the other loves to be touched. and no matter the huge difference, your hearts were designed by God to beat as one. cherish it! 8). THANK GOD FOR THE BIG DIFFERENCE IN YOU BOTH those differences keep you thinking different and this makes life fun and exciting. you both will never think exactly alike, you will always see the world through different eyes. it is fine as long as you both are looking up to God for directions. 9). DON'T CRITICIZE HER IN PUBLIC it will be too bad of you to criticize her jokingly or meanly in front of your friends, family or colleague. if you are not praising her then i think you should pin your mouth and swallow the negative things about her. 10). DO NOT COMPARE HER WITH OTHER LADY she is your one and only and in no account would you compare her with your sister, friend, colleague or even your mom, she is unique and unique she will forever be.

XX CODE: TO UNLOCK HER LOVE CHEST (Brother's Codes) 18+

You are your wife's knight in shining armor, her super-hero, the person she turns to first and always. I guess as her superman you ought to save her every moments, then read on as you put on your red cape, on the verge not only to save the world but your marriage. 1). Why not Hanger Out At Home When your home becomes a favorite place to hang out it reassures your wife of the commitment you made to love and to hold. When you walk through the door and greet her with a kiss, she knows she's loved. 2). Keep Your Wondering Eye Off The Big Booty Gal: Oh yes, your wife is a hell smart of a woman, because even when you think she's not watching, her instincts are still intact, don't even border to tell her how nice that girl is, she reads everything intoto and admiring other girls is gonna cut the silk thread binding the two of you together. She's the only one you should be looking at, get used to it for your marriage sake. 3). Protect Her By Firstly Protecting Yourself: Many would say "that is too selfish" but your woman knows she feels safest when she knows that she is in your hands and that you are in God's hands. Get the spiritual compass well figured and she knows you can lead the family all the way 4). Be a Good Protector You don't need to slay orks, dragons or vikings hordes to be a good protector, just start taking preventive measures. Stop asking her if the door is locked, go and check for yourself, seeing you check that the doors are locked, that the cars are parked well, check if the keys are hanging where they are suppose to be. All these has some unseen emotional effect on your wife. 5. Be Your Wife's Advocate: Your sisters, brothers, friends and mom, yes your mother, may think your wife is a terrible housekeeper, but it is not their house anyway, it's hers and yours. If at all she is the apple of your eye. Let all of them know that anyone who attacks your wife is biting your eye and I guess that's not funny, You chose her out of 4billion other gals and that doesn't mean she's perfect but she's your Angel. Who doesn't want to be at the side of an angel. What other way would you rather be there for her if not in "so, so and so" moments like this. And if they say she gave you a love portion then do it for love's sake. Visit your mom next time and she will see a brave heart who does for his wife what your dad couldn't do for her. 6) She Loves a Brave Heart. We are rooting for ways to become the super-hero our wife would be proud of, but first of all you need to know what creates an impression for her. When you have the courage to stand up for what's right, when you give of yourself in service to humanity, when you love kids and help the needy, that is bravery. 7). Be Her Mirror Even if you decide to place mirrors in every turn your wife makes, it's always going to be certain that she will be longing to hear from you how she's dressed. After all she worked all these hard for you. In every women, big and small; young and old is a little girl dressed in pink hoping her man will tell her how beautiful she looks. Be creative in this; place nice words inside her bag, shoe or get her a key holder that write "my wife is a key to my chest" 8). Forgive Her: The fountain of a peaceful home flourishes in the spring of forgiveness, great husbands forgive their wife even before they offend them. They know she's not a perfect freak, she's human, love her perfect imperfections. 9). VALUE HER OPINION Every woman young and old are prophets, your wife can tell what can become of your plan, she knows what's wrong and where and how, they are more detailed than you. Bring down your proud and value her opinion. 10). How Going is The Bed Ride: The reason for some quarrels, nagging and sudden anger is not just the present occurrence, most times those ones are in the surface, it has a root cause. It may be unsatisfied sex, average sex, or even too much of it. Don't shy away from these deal with it. Get quick solutions to keep wheeling the ride. This is the first X(ten) codes. Watch out for the next episode which will bear the rest of the X its gonna be explosive. Save homes, Feel free to share! Please leave a comment!

X CODES: YOUR RELATIONSHIP NEED TO THRIVE (Ladies Codes)

After years gone off the honey moon's lane, the moment after the poison of the cupid arrow begin to fade away, men wake from the long term sleep poised by love, his suspended consciousness begin to return, then the man begin to observe your little flaws, instead of remaining helpless or to spend forever checking the marriage certificate for the marriage expiring date; here are things many wives did that kept wheeling the ride. 1. Start Making His Favorite Meal: Though at the onset a man feels satisfied by your voluptuous body and pretty face and decided to settle with you, if you don't satisfy his stomach then you are likely inviting trouble. His eye may play trick on him and make him ask your hand in marriage but his stomach is topping the list of the reasons whether you will be staying close to his heart or not. 2. Check Your Attitude: During this period no matter the character he throws at you, standing for the right attitude elevates your inside game. A negative attitude is below the horizon...a place for lonesome hearts. Neither will swearing and nagging make your argument valid; it just tells him that you have lost your class and control. Ignore the negative voice inside you and focus on your strengths...... which is to keep loving. 3. Check Your Appearances Women often think that the ultimate of their looking good game is to win the ring and when they are finally in his house, there is no point setting any other new fashion goals. That's wrong........ Ask him how he wants you to look or just don't stop looking good till you start stealing not his money but his attention. 4. Satisfy His Quest for Intellect A hungry man is an angry man, he may not be hungry for food but he may be yearning for intelligence...... become one, research for him, give him brilliant answers, you are his helper not only to do his laundry or cook his food, he needs your intelligent just as America needs the C.I.A. 5. Show His Relatives Some Respect: Show some respect to his relatives most especially his mother, she is the one who nurtured out the man he is. 6. Revisit Your Dreams and Aspiration: life is just but a dream, if you sit in the ivory tower of comfort and usher your food and love one day he will keep stirring at your face like a billboard for those dreams you told him while at the park, in CDS, eatery or in college. Revisit your dreams, men like women with drives to accomplish dreams 7. Men love a listener: No matter how much you want your opinion to push through, listen to his details and don't counter them. Ogechy Cynthia Eze : 2014) 8. How Deep Is Your Bedlife: He is hungry yet there is one important food that stirs his soul, don't starve him of it no matter what happens, I guess you get the gist. Sure, sex isn't everything. But a complete lack of it could spell the end of a marriage. 9. Improve Your Prayer Life A godless woman is very clueless and doesn't have a belief system and could spell a disaster for a man. Prayerful woman is filled with answers because God will never fail her. 10. Make Him Feel Important Show some gratitude for even the little things he did for the family not just only when he showed you kindness, honor him, care for him, remain boastful of your man even though all he gave you was a kiss. Please Leave a comment!

CAUSES AND SOLUTIONS TO FEAR OF LOVE

It is so pathetic what fear does to us without we knowing it; we allow it play a role in all our decision making which tear down our respective relationships and leave your spouse with no reason for the fall-out and determines who you date: good or bad. Most ladies left guys with no reasons; and fear to tell them the rational behind their leaving. Fear displays its awkwardness in all aspect of our life as we deem it fit Most people's problem is not who to love or how to love but people are often afraid of love itself. Fear of love could be caused ranging from: 1)Fear of an ugly experience repeating itself; 2)Some background rooted Reasons. » Fear of an ugly experience repeating itself do give a hidden belief that love is dangerous. That if you fully dive into love for anyone, it will engulf you, swallow you whole that there'll be no "you" left and at the long run when you have finally surrendered your love, you will be disregarded and later jilted by the same person that had loved you. It make you see love as a trap waiting to break your heart. Background Rooted Cases: There are generations of women in some families, who do sabotage happiness and push love away and encourage the younger gals down the line to do thesame. They get the lucky ones among them who have finally found their soul mate to believe that the relationship cannot possibly last. Then they must create trouble at base camp. They must cheat to feel justified, thinking its the right thing to do. All these drives is wheeled subconsciously, and is in constant struggle with your Christian beliefs and these fears will always take prominence reflecting in your behavior because you tend to feed your fear more than you feed your faith; your clueless spouse would be having issues with you without knowing the root causes. Since you are what you think, then, you have the choice to determine "who you want to be" in the middle of your inward struggle between faith and fear in your mind. Between denying the ugly scene happening inside of you, and set your relationship up for a fall or tell yourself the truth and make way for love. ACTION POINT »Tell yourself the truth. »Engage in some proper interpersonal relationships with yourself. »Begin to place your beliefs to a doubt to choose the helpful ones. » Affirm the best and right things to yourself; faith comes by hearing, hearing the word of God. »Let your spouse know you had a life before he met you and learn if he can fit into it and help improve your life? Don't expect him to know, he is not in your head. »Don't just keep filling your minds with reasons for doing the wrong things hence feeding your fears against your faith. Rather tell yourself the truth and only the truth can set you free. Please leave a comment!

The Basis For Life

Life is a period of time when everything is built on the basis of a thing! The foundation on which one builds that which is important to each and everyone of us. This foundation is the basis for which things that matter about life is built upon. The basis for which an individual live for, matters a lot. The basis for life is what an individual could live base on character, it is character that sharpens the basis for our life's existence. The life of an individual is base on the character which an individual exhibit one way or the other. This character shapes the way an individual sees life, the way we embrace life, and the way an individual act base on their habit. Character is the future of an individual, a distinguishing feature of an individual, it is a complex of mental and ethical trait marking a person or a group who they are. Character is a moral strength, it is the morality on which one can be known. The society we have today is filled with people of different character both in words and in deeds, people from different race and background which make up the society both positively and negatively. These people have influenced the society with their different characters which we can see on the things that happens in our society today. The differences in all that are seen in our environment lies in the character that are portrayed by the individual in the society. There are people in the society whose character can not be identified with. It is a thing to be pondered on that these people affect other people negatively and they don't look at what or how they have negatively influenced the society. For the society to be a place of serene where peace and happiness flows then people should develop good character and affect one another positively. Looking at the singles in the society, it is not necessarily your money, your beauty, intelligence, fame, hardwork etc that may attract your husband; if one of these should attract him then it will take character to keep him. It may take beauty to attract a man but it take character to keep him and to build a beautiful home. It is therefore a thing that should be imbibed by the individual to develop a goodly and a godly character because your skill, talent, intelligence etc can push you high, but character will keep you up there. Hence, character is what a nation is known for, good or bad because it is what will keep the going, as it is the basis for the human existence. Written by #Queen Edited by Michael Ugochukwu Mbuko

GUY'S CODE

Ogechy Cynthia Eze . 1. Before you start a relationship with a lady, you must think carefully about what you are about to do. A relationship is not something you should rush into or handle lightly. 2. Are you ready for a relationship with her? Are you emotionally, mentally and spiritually mature to meet her needs? 3. Being sexually attracted to her means absolutely nothing. It isn’t a sign of likeness, love or any other thing your mind may come up with. It may just be your hormones messing with your mind. A woman is more than her body and her sexuality. She has a life which you should be able to blend with. Can you do that? 4. This lady has a history. Can you handle it? She has a past. Can you handle it? Can you handle her mistakes, failures and weaknesses? Can you handle her dreams without being intimidated and becoming jealous? 5. She already had a life before she met you. Can you fit into and help improve her life? 6. Love is commitment. Are you ready to commit your life to helping her grow and become all that she can be, by God’s grace? 7. Is she valuable enough for you to devote a large portion of your life towards the accomplishment of HER dream? Are you ready to pour your resources into making her all the Lord plans for her to be? If you are not ready, don’t just bother. 8. Before you open your mouth to say ‘I love you’, ask yourself if this is not just a moment of ‘emotional madness’. A lady needs much more than ‘I love you’. She needs your commitment. If you are not ready to make that commitment that will lead to marriage, please leave her alone in peace and stop wasting her time and resources...

DIVINE CREATION

Great minds and inspirational musicians like Josh Wilson and James Adelaja Cerulean would agree with me that the music doesn't come from the fingers that draw the cords, it comes from the mind. Those words don't just flow from their mouth, it flows out of the mind and being aired through the mouth. Your mind determines what your eye get fix on and what your interests are. The mind absorbs what ever skills, knowledge and ability we acquire overtime; and requires our self-belief to remit it back to us at the point we need them. When you get too emotional with fear, anxiety and doubt, your brain chemistry gets disrupted and your mind functionality gets affected. Your mind will operate just fine when you base your thoughts on "I can" ideology. If your mind can operate this fine on its own, then what about allying with the Super-mind that can do all things? You will become as much super too. The ability of your brain to process information is what makes us human, and this mental power can travel back in time to recall memories and also front in time to foresee the future. Both the past, present and the future what matters most is where our consciousness is at a particular point in time from cradle to grave. Since success is progressive, If your foot get planted in the past then you are no where near the life of your dream . But when we go forth to perceive, to dream of the future mentally it helps us know how to work it out physically. You are divinely made, connect back to your source and enjoy a life worth living! Cheers! Please leave a comment!

God Loves Nigeria

God Loves Nigeria - written by Femi Fani Kayode Article written by Femi Fani Kayode. Read below... God loves Nigeria so much. For those that doubt it kindly consider the following. They created ebola in their demonic labs for bio weapons. They sent the disease to our shores through an insane Liberian but the Lord defended us and refused to allow it to take root in our shores. God loves Nigeria so much. Why? Because, as the bible says, ''He uses the foolish things of this world to confound the wisdom of the wise''. For those that still doubt it kindly consider the following. They refused to label Boko Haram as a terrorist organisation until all men of goodwill begged them to do so and until the terrorists had slaughtered no less than 25,000 Nigerians, including innocent children whilst abducting thousands more. They refused to sell us arms to fight the Haramites and when we approached other nations to do so they directed them to say ''no'' and turn us down. Yet God was with us, we sourced those arms ourselves and ever since then the tied has turned and our gallant soldiers are winning the war against Boko Haram. Can all this be just coincidence? Do these so-called friends and allies of our nation really wish us well? I read the response of the American Ambassador to Nigeria about our concerns about the US arms embargo on Nigeria. He spoke nothing but nonsensical popycock and bunkum. What on earth have we done to them that they seek to bring us to our knees and decimate our country with terror, torment, violent brutality and disease? Why have they visited us with so much covert hate despite our obnoxious fawning and desperate crawling before their superpower thrones for the last one hundred years? Have we not played the fool enough for them and have we not bowed low enough to them on bended knee for the last 54 years? Yet despite all our efforts to please our international partners and modern-day slave masters they seek to effect their prophecy that chaos must envelop Nigeria and that our country must break up by 2015. They seek to ensure that we are enveloped in a sea of carnage and fratricidal butchery the likes of which have never been seen before on the African continent or indeed in world history. In the light of all these observations numerous questions must be asked? Who is really behind Boko Haram and how come they have more sophisticated arms than the Nigerian military? Who supplies them with those arms and all that training? Is it the same forces that covertly trained, armed and supplied ISIS, Al Nusra and Daesh? Is it the same powers that used those barbaric terrorist organisations in Syria to attempt to topple President Bashar Al Assad and in Iraq to push Nouri Al Malaki out of power? Is it the same forces that unleashed mayhem and created turmoil in the Ukraine and that sought to plunge Europe and Russia into a bloody war? Is it the same forces that created Al Qaeda and commissioned Osama Bin Ladin to push the Soviets out of Afghanistan? Is it the same people that seek to use Boko Haram to decimate our country, destroy our people and bring our government to it's knees? It is very clear to me that NATO will deploy ground troops to Iraq and Syria relatively soon. This was the plan all along. The long-term objective is not just to destroy and defeat ISIL but also to remove Bashar Al Assad from power in Syria. As a matter of fact the latter has always been the primary objective and America, Turkey, Saudi Arabia, Qatar and a handful of others in the Arab Gulf states supported and funded ISIS, Al Nusra, Daesh and a number of other terrorist groups specifically for that purpose for a number of years. The sheer evil and horror of ISIS has provided a useful pretext and justification for a full scale invasion of Syria and Iraq by the western powers and their sunni Arab allies. That invasion, which will be clothed in the name of ''liberation'', will come soon. Bashar Al Assad, Syria, Russia, Iran, China and their secularist allies in the region need to brace up and prepare for the worst. This is indeed a rhapsody of reality. Yet whoever unleashed these forces and whatever their evil intentions for Nigeria are, one thing is clear: despite all our complexities, self-hate, self-doubt, ignorance, naivety, eccentricities and innocent trusting ways, God loves us dearly and we shall not go the way of Iraq, Syria or Libya. After all this is the land of the Ameyo Adadevoh's and other brave souls. This is the land where the watchers pray through the night and stand in the gap for their beloved nation and their compatriots regardless of faith, tribe or creed. This is the land where, though we pretend to hate one another and we bicker morning, night and day, we know the meaning of the word patriotism, honor, dedication, resilience, ruggedness and love. This is the land whose people know how to worship and praise the one true God and who call on His name night and day. The earthly powers that be and the emissaries of the devil, no matter how powerful, how rich and how connected will never destroy us and neither shall the counsel of satan prevail in our land. Each time they throw a bomb at us, like ebola, it shall ''return to sender''. Each time they refuse to sell us arms to enable us to defend our people and redeem our honor the Lord shall raise others who shall do it in their stead. The bottom line is as follows: you may hate us and seek to shame and humiliate us but God loves Nigeria and His purpose for our nation, whether you like it or not, shall surely come to pass. God bless Nigeria and may He continue to deliver us from our enemies, preserve our unity, defend our shores and protect our borders. The watchers prayed "return to sender" and ebola was sent back to Houston through another insane Liberian. Now they seek to learn lessons from the Nigeria that they targeted and sought to destroy about how to "contain