TOO MANY BOYS FEW MEN

So many boys are born but few turn out to become men, and out of these men, very few turn out to become husbands.

Schools employ such boys as teachers and they started defiling school girls the first day at school, including some of the female teachers. Universities harbour such boys as lecturers threatening girls with "fails," if they don't allow them carnal knowledge of them. They even keep cliques to perpetuate such evil and go scotfree. Churches keep such boys as pastors, they trap our little girls and women who willing come to aid with the house chores to go home defiled. Even the choir masters too. Some of these boys claim to be husbands to our sisters yet they seek secretly to defile their sister-inlaws.

Yet every talks on relationship on every ground is advicing the ladies. Who is addressing the cheats, the deception, the fornication, adultery,  the cyber flirting, cyber-sexting in the boys and Male domineering attitude over the girls.  Who is mentoring the little boy on the right way to go.

Everyone is telling the girls to smart up, wise up and guide up but no one to tell the boys to man up.

Why should every girl be entering a relationship terrified, scared of being plundered? why should girl die reading books on male maneuver to avoid being invaded in the guise of love. "Where there is fear, love is not made perfect." Said the bible.

Are we declining morally? where is our self-worth?   ain't we able to  impact on women positively without asking for a pound of flesh? Nowadays very minute guys can agree to help a lady without hidden motives. Must we see every lady that come our way as an opportunity to express our naughtiness, eroticism and lustfulness.

Why would the only thing still keeping you with that girl be her foolishness: she is scared of loosing you, of being found lonely, she chose to became so dumb to allow you inbetween her legs up till this time. We inject a lot of insecurities into women. So many of them are covering these insecurities on a nice, clean and expensive labels. There worth is based on those cloths. And when we eventually marry her, we are scared to let her be with our friends alone. We fear she might fall for him. Because We didn't nurture her, we only clothed her. We fell in love with her because of her alurred apparel and voluptuous body not because of the hidden person of the mind.

Live to nurture every gal that come your way and you can go to Amsterdam to find your wife faithfully waiting for you because you are such a faithful husband too and because she fears God.

I want to send my daughter to school and be sure the male lecturers won't plunder her and accuse her for failing when she refuse to grant their request.  I want to see my sisters with guys solving assignments, debating politics and discussing Christ and save myself the headache of always checking on them. I want to give my cousin's number to my friend to wish her happy birthday without cunningly looking for a way to sleep with her.

I want to live my wife to enjoy the company of my friends without ever being so scared of luring her into a hotel room.

But for all these to be possible, the change have to start from me first. Then you and him.

WHY MEN'S "HUSBAND MATERIAL" DON'T DROP A YARD?

I see a generation where everyone both family members, neighbours and friends to the family keep a watching eye over a girl child. Everyone stands in the watchtower on her matter beaming the spotlight on her every path.  Mentoring every step she takes and preparing her for her man in marriage, yet the boys will still strategically sneak  her to the dark to deflower her. Still his "husband material" never drops.

"All men are dogs, just a different pedigree" is what I hear from virtually all the ladies who on looking for true love have received a dozen horse whip-lashes. Maybe what we have today are males not men anymore because no one is grooming the boys to become a loving faithful husband who commits to his wife alone.

He is only groomed to be a man and that trenscends to physical strength and not inner strength of self control and righting the wrongs around him!!! He gets education to get wealthy to provide for his family and not moral and spiritual healthiness to remain faithfully to his wife

He is indirectly adviced to plunder and the woman bears the blame for being so loose and letting her wife material drop many yards even though she was deceived. 

Yes, we come from a background where a girlchild is asked to keep the home clean, cook for the boy child and wash his clothes as the boy child sit in the sitting room to watch Rihanna TWERK on MTV, listen to Wizzy's erotic lyrics.

And when he sees a lady he looses his garment of self-control, but the girl child is always the one to blame for being so loose. No one recognises who was  first to "loose their garment." The girl's wife material strips each time she sleeps with a man and each time the men sleeps their Husband material remains intact. What mystery.

The girl child must let the male child grow up before secretly pitching her tent with him as his babe doing what mom and dad is doing. When you didn't allow him maximize his single hood to  cook for himself, do the laundry, scourge the pot, think for what to eat, cook them himself, communicate to himself and grow in love.....you make an irresponsible man who wont appreciate his wife when she renders those services in his home.

Being his babe from his teen age to adulthood and spending lots of the time in bed makes him irresponsible of appreciating sex with his wife..... Without God filling a man's moral and spiritual tummy. He will become a sex gluttony, not even his wife will satisfy him.....in fact he needs variety. ...please I enjoin us all to bend a boy child when he is flexible before he becomes adult and rusty and not easy to bend and as much put an eye on a girl child too. Even the bible didn't specify just a female child, it said  "Train up a child the way he should go and when he is old, he won't depart from it......but the trainer must also know the way.!!!

God Help our Male Children and the Adult males too.... to grow up to become men.

LOVE OVER COMFORT

Imagine, when two people come together with similar beliefs based not on what they can gain from each other but on helping one another achieve their dreams, you will see there will be more initiative to get the relationship going. This two people would become partners more than they are just on a date. They would rather see canal knowledge of themselves before marriage as a distraction to the main focus.

~Michael Mbuko ~

A research was conducted between guys in 5 continents including Africa, and the guys were asked to choose between meeting the love of their life or having amazing sex for six months, 92 percent chose falling in love.

Which means we still believe in soul mates, and life partners than you think we don't. Then why are too many ladies being played?

No man can play you without your permission. He may not ask but your behavior gave him the suggestion. Not too many would correct your bad steps, especially when they see you leave loopholes that you are on a quest for money, Fame and comfit, then your heartbreak becomes a punishment for seeking the shortcut.

Most times your background is to be blamed for this, your dad wasn't rich and he need a rich inlaw to compliment for not being rich, your mother never married a rich man and is priming you to get a rich husband. You think you suffered too much and needs a rich man that will clean you up.

You maybe rich and needs a rich guy too. All your friends are marrying rich dudes and you need not slack or You've lived a fake life and needs a rich man to grace you. Life doesn't work the way we think. Life don't always offer you your needs and wants at a go. You negotiate out your needs and wants out of life with your thoughts and deeds.  It gives you what you need then you get what you want out of it.

Don't get biased, Love is a necessity. Remember its either God or money, its either love or comfit but know this: love can bring comfit, but comfit don't always bring love.

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