Untold Mystery of Love, Seduction and Trust

I think... if it is true that
there are as many minds as there
are heads, then there are as many
kinds of love as there are hearts.

                  Leo Tolstoy,

We men can be too dangerous to your liking. We can create a demon out of an Angel by simply making you blind to see the devil beneath our cloak. We make it harder for you by hiding under some guises you can't imagine, we understand the relativity of things and we know how your mind is being wired. Then we pick up one of your moment and fill it up with sweet words we don't mean, to you it is a night made perfect, to us we are simply making our lion paw so soft for an embrace. Not even your defences can bring you back to your senses, even your own beauty, physiques and money is a trap to you. It wields powers you can't control but before you know it, we have torn your hearts apart and another demon is being born out of you because an angel without a heart is a demon. You will walk the earth surface heartless, hateful, distrustful, painful and sorrow giving up on love.

Another thing that pleague you is that you don't know how to discern the real men, in fact you have concluded that we are all the same. This is a puzzle you can't solve because you have not seen real love being practiced, what you are seeing are the shadows of love created by fallen men in their fallen state under the inspiration of the adversary. Did you question why people around you even the married ones fall into bad relationships? We most times forget that even the pharoah's magicians also turned their staffs into snakes after  Moses' staff changed into a snake. Devil can also counterfeit love and when it doesn't last men grudgingly use manipulation to make it last at least until when death do them apart.

Giving up on love is practically giving up on God because God is love.  True love is what you are seeking but you have seeked for it in wrong hands. Embrace the "Man Unseen." Let him  wash away the deep emotions you hold inside with the blood of His Son and create in you a new heart, a new Angel being born with tender kinderness and love renewed.

As you get stronger with time don't walk in this dark world alone, there are wolves in men's skin walking around, Let His Word be a lamp before your feet to lead you to a human love that will love you truly. Only Him can give what is good and not a shadow of what is good. Then you will tell a new story but it all started by believing in a Man that guided you this far. That is what Love is there for.

Are You a Mortal Man or A Dead Man Walking

Mortal men are subject to immoral life, They are the worldly wise men who know more about atoms, law of demand and supply and law of diminishing returns, they know what will likely happen when the curve is sloppy;  the inelasticity and elasticity of demand are peanut in their scope of knowledge.

They know more about the wind vane and can calculate the likely occurrences of the typhoon and hurricane. They know more of the law of gravitational force and can maneuver through aerodynamic but know nothing about  the moral barometer that keep their morality in check.

They are gurus in human anatomy and are characterized by flesh and blood  and are often driven by adrenaline, they base their choices on what they see, hear and perceive, yet they are plagued by the fear of the unknown. Because they are running after civilization and not salvation, Like Temitope Funke rightly said they hate what they can’t conquer, envy what they can’t get, and destroy what they already have.

Again, they are the worldly wise men and women who are influenced by civilization and are mastered by materialism, they talk to God but their heart worships "matter." They are aliens to their family in the chase of becoming the "haves" at the expense of the "haves not."

To them money gives answers to all things and they perceive the society as a setting where might is right, money become their defence; could that be the reason they aim to have more in Swizz Bank? They are impatience because they have limited time and there glory cannot exceed this world.

They know a lot about International Relations and human relations but cannot live peacefully among neighbors and colleagues.
They know a lot about Political Economy but are ignorance about the Heavenly Economics.

They are professionals in cosmetology. They know a lot that Mary Kay, Iman and face foundation can do. They can beauty the flesh and not the heart.

Immortal men in the other hand are subject to moral life. They are Spirit filled and Spirit led. No wonder they have the eternal joy, peace, love and rest which are the evidence of things hope for and the substance of things not seen.

They know that money can buy momentary pleasure not everlasting joy, money can buy a clock but not time. It can buy a house not a home. It can buy food but not appetite. It can buy space not air. It can amount to wealth but cannot buy good health. It cannot buy life either. Immortal men aim for weightier things, they talk weightier matters like Eternity, God and the Heavenlies......

They are Kingdom investors, They aim for stocks that can last and save in Heaven. There only currency is #obedience to God's instructions. Spend some time with them, their vibes can give life to dead bones. Their words are power containing elements of Salvation. They are patience because they have forever to themselves.

They know that only dead men can see the Lord. They are dead men walking and they see God as He lead them through this earthly plain.

Love talks for Matured Ladies

I understand how men's words form rose spectacles which dims all faults and blemishes perceived in guy's life. This means that you are less likely to recognise the dangers and obstacles which are inevitably encountered further along the road until he leads you into a ditch. You most times would want to ascertain whether for sure destiny has both of you in mind, but some times the handwriting of your life is written on you palmtop. Let me be of help with  this following rules:

* Don't judge the book by its covers, judge it by its content: the packaged man may have little character flaws you may take for granted now, what about later.

* Watch their wrist watches, did they have your time? : They might have your time at that moment not because they love you but because their is a space you have to occur at the mean time. Men have to prove to you that when your presence is not seen, it is felt. A good lover holds his lover to his heart.

* Learn to separate your worth from your net worth: Know your worth, also know that  you are worthless when you go attaching your worth on a man or on things, and don't fake your lifestyle.

* Don't gossip rather gist: Women who haven't been around men talk to men like they are women. Just gist and don't gossip. It pisses men off.

* Gauge His Love To Yours: Men thirst for what they don't have hence when the maximum satisfaction is reached, he is likely going to leave. Mind you, Love fades quickly in a man's heart but ladies grow in love and help preserve it. Learn to gauge the love, his love for you must be greater than yours,  he must love you to the extent a drunkard loves his bottles.

* Change the rules, don't let the rules change you. If he messes up, chastise him and mean it.

* Don't go winning his heart for marriage: it should be the other way round. When a guy conquers your territory, he will hold you captive, you will work for him with the intent to win back what you have lost, which is likely a road with no ends.

* Always Take A Stand: Everyone must stand, but make sure you are standing tall by keeping no middle ground, don't stand on the fence either. Don't compromise your setted standards.
* The Crowded Spaces are Always noisy: make sure you stand out, don't get along with the crowd, rather be a lone star that shines than a diamond without a spark.

* Give room for the unexpected so you don't get surprise:
Don't give all your heart at once, most men cant wait till your heart stop working , they would rather break your heart to know how it works.

* Be Honourable:
The wounds of honor are self afflicted, an honorable road is always lonely but thats where you can pick up beautiful pearls worth keeping. Don't give up on love.

3. Multiply Money: I am so happy to be sharing this because the effort of my previous article was rewarded by many people writing to me about how this idea have bring to their awareness about financial intelligence. I am so grateful to share this one too knowing it will still have the same impact, as Much as you develop interest, without self discipline you won't make progress. I only try to help you with self awareness about how to mind money, its now onto you to imbibe self discipline. Here we go: Money just like the grain of the field wants to multiply itself when deposited down into a soil of sound ideas. Money invested properly is money multipled. Let your money be your messenger, let it run errands for you and bring together all other monies without minding what currency as long as your idea is sound. Put Your Money Where Your Mouth is: Find out those things you can do better in, watch out for that business of your passion and invest in it. If you love good clothes and you are fashionable, why not open a fashion center or a beauty house with beauty accessories, or boutique, so that you don't end up looking good rather you sale good clothes and make nice selections and keep nice collections for your customers. if you like reading, why not open a library, a book shop or write a book. Put your money where your mouth is entails you do those things you love, sell your favorite food so that you will have a lot to tell a new eater convincing him or her to become a fan of the delicacy. Information is lord: Acquire informations on areas you want to venture into. Don't just dabble into things, there are best methods of carrying out virtually everything, strive for that best ways, it can put you ahead of the competition. Don't be stereotyped, look for new ways. Embrace strategies, pay your workers well, dont be a monster who bait workers to work hard by just paying them little to solve part of their needs and hold them slaves trying to work overtime to make up for the other needs. people tend to work well when they are happy, create a friendly environment. Be Good To People: people support anyone who are good to them, be honest, transparent, kind and punctual, these are good currencies for business, remember you are not there to do your customers a favour but they do you a favor by patronizing you, so serve them and serve them as if they are always right. They will bring referers to you. Smile, communicate, and apologise when you are wrong, remember the 5 magic words: am sorry, pardon, thank you, excuse me etc. Plan to retain your customers, strive to maintain them and work hard to meet their needs and wants in shortest time possible and they will bring their neighbours next time to patronize you

2. MANAGE MONEY:

in my last article I discussed about making money and various ways of making money. Now that you have made money you need to manage your money. So we can increase our savings to the proportion that we deem fit.

Keep some of the Cash for Yourself:
Yea, we will learn how to box some of the money, wealthy people don't spend all their income, and  At least paying yourself  30% of our income will do. It could be little for a start but remember a drop of water makes a mighty ocean. Paying yourself  is practically saving at least 30% of our income that must not be touched. Then plan a concrete budget around 50% making sure we still keep "help fund account" where we save 10% in case any of our siblings might need urgent help. Then 10% as miscellaneous account. To do this, a lot of discipline is going to be on the line.

keep A Budget:
We need a budget to start with but the  Budget must program our expenses so that it reserve some money to pay for our necessities, our enjoyments and to gratify our worthwhile desires without spending more than the 50% of our earnings. We must not pleasure away our money but keep to budgets.

Keep  Expenditure Down Even When Income is raising:
The best advice to becoming wealthy is to keep expenditures down even when our earning power increases. We are often tempted to show off our new class. If we normally buy at low cost super mart we would rather go for a higher priced shop. It doesn't mean you don't take care of yourself but keep it at the minimal happy James said, wealthy people's expenses don't raise as their income raises. As you earn your taste bud wants changes too. Instead of spend more rather save the reserve. People might disobey this and you will feel tempted to, in your best interest don't envy anyone, and don't compete with anyone, you may start what you can't finish and drain all your purse competing. Labels are good, D&G, Channel, Zara, Armani, Versace and Vuitton Louis are perfect but there satisfaction ends immediately you see many people wearing the same clothe with you as you go looking for another unpopular trend from a popular Label. Clothe to look good and not clothe to show off.

Know your self worth and not claim what you are not:

know exactly who you are and don't form to become something you are not for that could set you up to down fall, it will make you borrow to support the extra worth you added to yourself. Be exactly who you are and don't be what you are not.

Mind you  loans and Mortgage Have Interest:

plan for the future, avoid the loans, if you have borrowed money already, still strive to pay up in time for the interest rate may be raising but don't forget to pay yourself first. Many desire a house of their own then they go for mortgage, it could be tasking to service that. Rather watch your money grow, then multiply it and you can get a house of your choice.

Beware of manipulators:

There are people who are so good in creating holes in your pocket or purse because most times you make yourself more merciful than God,  they will manipulate you and collect all you have, they are those set of people who don't recharge their phones because your phone is recharged so they can use your airtime with you, the only way to minimize their electricity power bills is by recharging their laptops at your home. They borrow virtually everything and lend many things. They are those guys who buy spaghetti, fish and jam, yet keep looking for more money to buy chicken from you who only had rice and decided to safe for a rainy day. They borrow to add to their own expenses. All this guys do is Loot you and drain your pocket without you knowing it.

Don't Fall Into The Pit:

Kill all the temptations telling you to use the credit card, it could put you on a rat race at the long run. Spend according to what your budget says. Recharge cards are good , they get us calling but you have to budget that one too. It is a fire consuming money. And please rent houses you can cater for, remember you need to curtail your expenses to the minimal and house rents might be the drainer you didn't realize.

Pay Your Tithes' :

pay your tithes to a man of God, it is usually the one tenth of your income, for God to protect all your affairs of life.

The 3M Every Billionaire Mind Need to Know

A wise man should have money in his head, but not in his heart.

Jonathan Swift

Before I dabble into the subject matter it will be essential I conceptualize the basic terms.
Then what is money?
What are these 3Ms of Money?
Firstly,  lets discuss what money is: Money is what you have in your wallet or pocket and is about to save i, pend it or even invest it but according to Oxford dictionary "Money is a generally accepted means of exchange and measure of value." But personally I see Money is an idea that serves three purposes. It is a medium of exchange, a store of value and a unit of account. It is used to pay debts, purchase goods and services and is accepted by the government for taxes. .
Further discussed, money can be a defence in a world where might is right. With it you can pleasure and keep smiling on your way to hell or move mountains by beating Bill Gates records and help others survive in Africa, Asia and the Caribbean.

Then back to our other concept, the 3M of money which is as follows:

1 Make money
2 Manage money
3 Multiply Money

1. Make Money:  I want to establish a point here that  sound ideas diversified are paramount in making money. Such ideas goes beyond an  Ambitious gal or guy getting married to a rich old man or the guy to a rich woman for instant money or a smart guy looking for a way to scam people on the internet. There are various ways to make money but i will delight to discuss four i have tested myself and can recommend with ease and with guarantee.

I. Put your Mind in the Matter:
Remember money is an accepted idea used as a medium of exchange and every country have their unique accepted idea for a means of exchange which is called currency. Then build an idea that you can exchange with money, usually devise an answer to a person's problem, it could solving the problem of a city, state, country or the world problem and get people to exchange your "answers" with money. You get the money they get the answers.....simple.
II. Learn a skill and earn money through it: As a skilled man there is hope and when you add morals and creativity to your skills then you will claim the portion of the world your mind could reach out to. Also learn how to package your product and the world will bit corners to Aba, Texas, Lagos, Mumbai, Manilla to buy from you. I will encourage the youths to get a skill that well suit their person, with their area of "interest" well invested, with time the world will pay attention and much money will be the dividend.
People pursue courses they are not even passionate about in the university. A Pursuit of a carrier as an employee is just a system the bourgeoisies designed to make you educate yourself only to be used in building their own dreams. You will remain a peasant for life and die as a "Have not." Rather turn it around, seek education to further get more knowledge to advance your area of passion. A skill well presented  will help you employ graduates to help you build your own dreams. Its not too late to get a skill and make sure it is in the area of your passion.

III. Volunteer to work free of charge to a big firm: Finally you decided to make mommy and daddy proud and you are out of school yet no employment and you ain't proud of yourself. This segment will help you. Mind you, in volunteering to work for free you are working for an experience, and adding values to your CV. Firstly, know that employers are after making more profit and can't risk employing any how, besides people already  in the system have youths like you a siblings they want to favor. in a country like Nigeria there are lots of good graded unemployed youths to contend with so why not volunteer to work for a big firm for free, you will be set on the hill to be watched, hide your intentions with a smile and perfect all works, you can't tell you may work wonders and get employed with huge pay. This system may look foolish but rewarding at the long run and it is also unconventional.

IV. Accept an Appointment with Lower Salary than you will naturally accept: Seeking employment could be challenging but there are ways to go about it. Take up a job with little pay than you deserve and work fervently, you either get an experience which will help you get employed in bigger places with bigger money or get promoted with bigger money.

V. Perfect your talent with time it will start paying you royalties beyond your imagination. I will discuss the other 2M in my next article. Remain blessed.

Become A True Seeker

It is not the possession of truth, but the success which attends the seeking after it, that enriches the seeker and brings happiness to him.

Max Planck

You can just be like us, true seekers not waiting for luck or kneeling on the preacher's feet waiting for a miracle, we take actions and create the greatest chances to put our statue on the pedestal. We dedicate ourselves and find ourselves champions, we believe with concentration we can move moutains and Like Jesus we walk the streets through hell with smiles on our face and like Shadrach We know that the hottest fires don't kill. They only give birth to the brightest gold. We also know that even in the church not many can invite us to their party but when we walk across we know its not about what clothes we put on but about what fabrics our mind is being framed with......we've got the mind of Christ. We don't just swallow all that is being passed done to the society, we just pray God to open our eyes so that the next book we are reading is gonna be Holy with the Holy Spirit sitting close by to remove our glasses. The rose tinted spectacles of ignorance, with the truth we could be the greatest, we won't be too greedy not to help the needy. We can be the best without depleting the ozone layer of our moral atmosphere but strive to give  the world records a creak, we can beat the time without selling our souls and  alienating our love ones and finally like the King Kong we shall bang on our chest with tears as we hang our name in the hall of fame and walk up finding a space among the stars.

MIRROR YOURSELF/TRICKS OF "SELF" EXPOSED

I know that in me, that is, in my lower self, nothing good has its home; for while the will to do right is present with me, the power to carry it out is not.

Romans 6:17(Weymouth Bible)

Man is triune in nature, he is a spirit that has a soul that lives in the flesh. The flesh or the "self" is the landlord of the spirit and it is what returns to the ground when the spirit and the soul might have gone on a sudden flight to be judged in the judgement throne. The soul is the record chamber while the spirit faces any punishment levied on it. The spirit man is the real man and your whole physical body is the flesh. Your spirit is used to "will" while the flesh push for action but many times your flesh don't agree with the spirit man because " the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh. They are in conflict with each other, so that you are not to do whatever you want." Galetians 5:17 opined.

We all in one way or the other is having problems with ourselves, our "self" is the problem, it is often called the "flesh," it is the sole reason most good thing you think to do never crossed the rooftop because your "self" never allowed it. That is the reason "When we are happy, we are always good, but when we are good, we are not always happy." Oscar Wilde observed. The flesh is after its own good, it long for pleasure, enjoyment and wants to be satisfied without minding the cost, it doesn't just care the consequences but the spirit care because everything your "flesh" commits your soul keeps the record and your spirit will be held accountable at the judgement day. That is the reason the spirit man speaks to you through your conscience each time your flesh leads you astray. Each time you want to read, the flesh wants to sleep, each time you want to read the bible, pray or meditate, the flesh wants to rest. When you want to fast, the tummy must want to eat. It is always contradicting all your good intentions because it wants to get all the attention without allowing the spirit man to be fed with prayers, meditations and bible reading.. What you don't feed dies, many of us are dead in the spirit, no wonder we are carnally minded being moved to action by the flesh that doesn't have a clear distinct of things, it can't separate good and bad, it is a powerful dictator and most often it is the best friend with your emotions to the level you yield to its dictation. It has everything to do with the head and nothing with the heart. It needs only knowledge to operate and does nothing to the moral environment. It hinders your success in craving for heavenly things to only long for the earthly. You want more money, more car, more houses, more loyalty even if there are many who needs your help.  No beast is wilder than the flesh, no one needs to be tamed more than our "self." It is that friend that you speak to that always contradict the voice of God in you, it shouts and feed your thought all the time. If you are still in the flesh. The below listed is what you must live to contend with:

1. SELFISHNESS: You are always looking after your own desires even at the expense of another. You always crave for you and for only you.

2 SELF RIGHTEOUS: You believe that you are the most righteous person, you speak about your righteousness and never care if it pisses another off. Mind you righteous is to be lived and not end at preaching.

3. SELF DIVINATION: you have grown to see yourself as a god and expect others to perceive that of you. This is mostly sin among our GOs.

4. SELF CENTERED: This one thinking only for one's own self.

5. SELF GLORIFICATION: this is when one  displays a boastful behaviour.

6. SELF DESTRUCTION: this case rises when one runs ones own self.

7. SELF RUN: This strives when you don't need anyone to advice you, often times perceived as stubbornness.

8. SELF HOOD: when one have a complete sense of self.

9. SELF IMMOLATION: when one sees every reason to die and commits suicide, or suicide as sacrifice. And often perceived from the terrorist inform of suicide bombing.

10. SELF IMPORTANCE: Exalting oneself and often perceived as arrogance.

There is no demon greater than self. Our problem is usually case by ourselves. There are more to expose, watch out for it in my next article.  

INCREDIBLE WAY TO BE A NORTHERN STAR THE WISE MEN WANTS TO FOLLOW

The last time I checked, there are still space in the sky for more stars to occupy. To become a star, you have to play your card to aces. We have our own cards to play in life, just like my friend Vicky said "To get ace, there's a lot of struggles & sacrifices...Its in our hands to play to achieve the  ACE and become the Star." When you shape your life to shine like that of a Northern Star, wise men and great things will have no choice than to follow you and as life still continues to be a game of negotiations, with cards of choices and the dice of values, what you play is what you get. But how will you likely win when you don't know how to play? Not to worry, i will likely teach you a better way to play and it began like this:

You choose the Way to Go: Some people made choices before I was born.now I had to inherit the consequences of their bad choices. At a certain time, i had made wrong choices too but I don't have to kill myself or kill them for making the wrong choice which affected me, I just have to forgive them and myself which will allow me live my life with little mistakes and enable me live up for myself. I then realized that choices are accumulative, one choice will always determine another choice creating chains of choices and the kind of choice  i  make will determine how small or big i  will become in life, so I took responsibility of my life.

Take responsibility of your life: You have to carry your own cross and take it upon yourself. Taking responsibility of your life will enable you see that you are the owner of your life and had to wear your heart in your sleeves and become the determinant of what happens to you and become aware of the kind of influence you have around you. It will also allow you to see yourself as an uncompleted project that needs some positive touches, so you have to take charge of your life to discover "you" and tell yourself nothing but the truth.

Discover the truth. The truth will activate your self awareness and enlighten your conscience to guide you to make better choices. The truth serve you as a sieve to sieve the wrongs and the negatives out of your life, it dictates wrong friends, and tell you the future about yourself . It is the microscope you view each advice before taking it. It shapes your character, renew your mind and mortify your flesh.  It mirrors people's intentions and reveal to you there plans no matter the guises they hide. The truth will determine your values, your norms, your principles which is the foundation of your life. As a Crusader i found my truth in the Bible, am not a jihadist but some people claim to find theirs in Quran, others in Krishna or Buddha. Then which are you?

Which side are you:  Christ conscience is the Way, the Truth and the Light. This Truth of God will illuminate the dark path you are walking on, yourself and show you the rifht way to go as you discover yourself. You need to be in the side of the Angels.

Discover yourself: self discovery is power, those who had discovered themselves take charge of their life, their character, temperant, emotions is in check. It helps you discover your potentials.

Discover Your Potentials: Potentials are the untapped resources inside of you. They are those hidden talents that can help your world grow and make our world beautiful. Don't expect a smooth ride.

Don't expect a smooth ride: It won't be a hitch free road, remember a gold must pass through fire, diamonds must be refined, most times the road is rough and you get knocked down as much by gallops, most times there are bridges to cross, the reason you need to pick up woods of lessons when you fall to help construct your Bridges above the crocodile lakes. you need to determine your company, they can lead astray.

Get a goal and a plan: get a goal and a plan but don't put yourself first, your serving people and helping them circle your plans and don't get frustrated when it is not achieved, you divide them into short term goals and long term goals, short term is your daily goals meant to help you attain the long term. Learn to carry over the unattained goal over and learn to adjust them with time but don't fail to hear from God and discover His plans for you.

Courtship Rules for Matured Ladies

Men are hunters by nature, when we catch a game , zeal dies. Many ladies dress to be noticed by men, how can you avoid to be eaten when you rather want to be hunted?
By just being that game he wouldn't want to eat but like to keep and rear. Keep to the following rules:

*By simply imbibing credible Attitudes; your attitude, habits characterizes you and set you apart to be seen and not to be eaten.

*Don't negotiate into the relationship when you are hungry, desperate and weak...... We will take advantage of your vulnerability. When you are hungry you are prone to accept just anything. To you any man can do. With the excuse "I will change him" flying into your head.  But if you can't change his diapers, don't even border changing him because you can't change him.

*focus your attention on the relationship and not on the
man. Ladies will often want us to move the relationship forward, don't get frustrated if we don't , simply focus on the relationship and not the man.

* Give your passion or talent or skills 60% and the man 40%. Make sure something is taking your time that you don't have to give him 100% of your time. Make sure you don't abandon it either for him, he will see you as a fool if you do.

*Don't put trust on your outward beauty, it fades with time.
Put your trust in God, and the beauty of the inside will glow and It never fades with time.

You matter to me so take precaution.