ARE YOU IN AN ULTIMATE SEARCH FOR LOVE

For our ladies, looking for love in this modern world can seem like being lost in a jungle. With distractions and dangers emerging from every direction as they roam the deadline. Ladies pick poisonous things (idea, believes and norms), get scars from beast in human forms and that changes their perspective, it's easy to lose focus and get tattered in the inside. It is not how you've been treated on your journey looking for true love but the barriers you erupted over time not seeing it that is keeping true love out. Our ladies are most times misinformed and ill-informed they are being pushed out by societal pressures and innate needs into the dark jungle looking for true love with torches of indecency and all they see is wolves in human clothing, they will get you hurt at the process.Rebuild your inside, no good person will enter unclean mind littered with dirty character unconscious to the bearer. Your task from now is not the #ultimate #search for love but a peep in the inward, rebuild yourself: your attitude, character, habit, start discovering your life's purpose and gear to work at it." For me I think the single phase is the phase where we get to sit down and develop who we really are. We have to develop our character, we have to grow spiritually, and we have to grow in our career. I think it’s not anything that one should be ashamed of. I think it is something that we have to own and ensure that we try to make work for ourselves." said Nee Oyedepo. You may need a torchlight which is Jesus, it may be dark inside ......this is a wake-up call.

THE INFLUENTIAL YOUNG WOMEN IN THE WORLD

• As the year draws its curtain to an end, we wish to unveil to you great women, women of valor, whose grace have kept our world spinning. So in its best, in its friendliest and with the simplest relations flattery or praise, just as grease is necessary to keep wheels turning we gear to give you a rub at the back. ON THE FACE of it, this unique but outstanding women should give hope to every toiling heck, force other ladies to buckle up and also encourage the listed.

 #Tony #Joy: A Nigerian, this lady is a star and her shine rubs of on whoever she meets. A Great orator, even when she speaks her air of confidence gives life to the feeble minded. A great soldier of the Less-Privileged I celebrate you today; If stars are meant to shine, then keep shining!!!!!!

 #Mirable #Chynwa: I honor you my great discovery of the decade. You brought out of us all things we didn’t realize were there.” Working with you in #CYLPI have been such a gift, and you continued to impact lives all over the world. Your boundless giving, caring, excitement and curiosity helped us in the organization to write through the sticky patches and bag to us something real and beautiful. You are a gift to the world.

 #Lilian #Anyanwu is a champion, a great woman. a wonderful intellect, a great soul of matchless courage, one of the greatest women of the world -- a Psychologist with a difference. She thought me how to read the stars. keep changing our world.

 #Ogeflexi #Boniface: I took out time to ink the little space in this page to honor you today, in honoring and in truth, your motivation and enthusiasm allowed us to take a time in our lifetime to transform what people may call a downright, crappy organization into a thing of beauty. your work together changed things and hope it wouldn't be an overstatement, because it has.

 #Alice #Tonia : A Togolese, her PanAfrican mindedness stirred up this young woman to support Nigerians; to her what other way would she contribute to Africa if not giving out her very best to the center piece of Africa, I can’t imagine a better honor to give, We are proud to have such an outstanding team player working on our product. You truly deserved the #CYLPI Award for best performance of the year.

 #Eze #Cynthia #Ogechy : A Nigerian, A beauty queen whose desire to educate the ladies about healthy relationship had made her the best sort after in the realm of love, truth and healthy marriage. She is a grand model, Africa has hope because she lives there. As your friend, I am perhaps your biggest fan. Good luck on your next contract.

 Vickie Ruthy Lucky : This is one of the best product in the world now, Vicky has touched and changed lives. She used her matchless power to defend the women. This Nigerian lady is a big thinker, - a lady who arguably as much as any other has shaped next week's guy's thought pattern about "women' and about "Love". Keep the impact game alive, I honor you.

 Angel Oluwatosin : Prayers work wonders but to Angel it is something more. The Nigerian based Canadian happens to be one of the very closest Friends Of God. A quarter- year later that friendship would change the lives of mankind. She is the arms controller in God's army, her prayer warfare had changed lives the world over. I honor you.

 Temitope Funke funke: You are indeed a wonder woman. Such conclusions are not by accident. This Nigerian represent godliness, an epitome of what the world call inspiring. Your Christian culture is massive; so is your drive and perfectionism - and, more surprising, your mastery of life and persistence had made a difference. you deserve such an honor.

 Agwu Peter Uchechi ": this Nigerian may be depicted as a 'big thinker' who is credited with having taken more time to discover herself in order to change the world positively. I see in her burning desire for change. Her Christian background and depth knowledge of God's word broadened her focus to extend a hand to the less fortunate of the world. You deserve this honor.

 Hazel Adelantar : A Philip young woman has risen to appear in this list of young world women of the year. We appreciate your devotion to God and wish that we had more leaders like you to lead the way. I give you my best wishes for your future endeavors.

 Stella Lekwauwa : Stella a creative thinking, expertise, positive can-do attitude and she drives the Nigerian Fashion market worldwide. She continually delivered results, went above and beyond in providing exceptional service and support not only in the fashion realm but also to the less fortunate, and showed genuine integrity and respect as a service provider. Stella is enthusiastic, personable and a brilliant networker. Her strengths in staying across issues, pro-actively offering solutions and ideas and being adept at all aspects of communications make her a valuable contributor to any situation or team. I honor you!!

 Chibaby Chi Chibaby: This woman have not failed to amaze me. Her desire to inspire her fellow young people stood her out of the crowd. Chi has built a strong (and deserved) reputation as someone with vision, diligence and honour – someone who gets things done! I have no hesitation to commend you and know that you will always give of your best in any endeavor. Enjoy its rewards for years to come.

 Gift Boniface : _ Gift always brought her keen analytical skills to the table and is an excellent leader and ‘doer’ in any team situation. Her many post of many years that had touched the heart till this present time were evident in the way she approaches tasks and achieved outcomes. i honor you. 

Edom Vorda : A highly creative Nigerian and a very easy-going person. I have seen many examples of your work. Edom is very passionate and has great vision for her work. Her focus keeps everything moving smoothly, she makes sure all the deadlines are met, and makes sure that whatever project she is working on meets the highest standards."! It is an honor for me to recommend and honor you."

 Umeibe Chioma : Chioma is a well connected professional that always takes her time to support the less-Privileged. she has a very impressive background and profile and I honor her today. She is the only Economic expert to connect with and consider for anything appropriate. Me and my team wish you similar success in the future.

 Prosper Chisom: Prosper is a dedicated Christian, ambitious researcher, result driven leader and thoughtful individual. Have you ever seen a lady so powerful? She is one!!!. She is great in dealing with difficult situations and a fantastic problem solver. I honor you today

EVERYONE IS A COPY CAT?: CHECK OUT WHAT LIFE YOU COPIED

"Do not Copy, even if you want to copy, make sure its Christ you are copying" 

 Every lifestyle is a product of a person's attitude which have circumstances attached to it: good or bad. God has an attitude and devil too has, he is the master counterfeiter. A devil based attitude have its thought pattern funneled directly from hell, it is so worldly and decayed and is being revealed in our lives or that of the person sitting beside us or behind us. Until we realise whose we are, we won't know who we are. Craving to copy fleshly men's lifestyle instead of craving to search for that which makes you different from the pack is the beginning of acquiring devils attitude. You are birthed uniquely and that uniqueness came with a unique personality, a unique attitude and also a unique circumstances but you grew up to start craving to be like the worldly men and women you see in the TV, heard and read about. I hear most of you say "Am not copying" but your lifestyle is not different from the pack, your appearance and character to begin with. You saw their money, beauty and success and desire it all without knowing that you are only being baited; all those things are illusional and the direct target is your soul. So craving to become wizkid, Psquare, Don Jazzy or D'banj, Tonto Dike, Beyonce, Rihanna and Lady Gaga is copying their every lifestyle, personality and attitude inclusive, we will always attract the circumstance attached to such awkward personality at the expense of our soul and spirit: no wonder your heart knew no peace, no joy, no love, no security........ most times you copy and don't know the demon behind each lifestyle as you get possessed and wonder how arrogance, Pride, high temperance, extravagance, and sexual immorality had so much hold on you that you can't shake them off. Lacking the source of your problem you grow in impatience, selfishness, confusion, insecurity, anger and sorrow. What a life...It all began with "Craving", a "wanting to be like" attitude. Mind the things you crave for, take charge of your thoughts, discover the truth about yourself and enjoy the warm, calm life of being you and your uniqueness is spelled in the Holy Bible. If really you are Christlike crave to be like Christ. ...Many of us are ignorance of this. Discover your uniqueness and do not Copy, even if you want to copy, make sure it's Christ you are copying. Copy and paste His life into my life, let the Bible be your guide. it is the life of Christ in our life that makes us different. Now, start Seeing yourself as a separate unique entity creating your every circumstance, destiny and life with the power of your own thoughts that are most times influenced by external forces in form of words and deeds, then you need to find every truth connected with your being because your greatest ignorance is yours. Allow the word of God to be the law governing your conscience; mind people's every effect in your life and another; correct them only by asking God for help through Jesus Christ then good and see what he wrote about you in his Word which is the Bible.

5 IMPORTANT TRAITS TO WATCH OUT IN A REAL MAN BEFORE GOING INTO A DATE WITH HIM

Going to church does not make him a godly man; nor does saying a prayer, going down an aisle, passing a catechism, neither will he tell himself that he is one makes him one, or trying to be a decent person. Most of you do think that as far he is celebrating Christmas, that makes them a Christian. He can only be a Christian if Christ is in him, which can be tested and proven if his life is in sync with the scripture. Ladies do not truly understand the difference between wanting a man who is a practicing Christian, verses a man who only says he’s one and likes to wear a cross round his neck from time to time and court himself with respect only to ask for sex after some few months.

Look out for this in a godly man:

Honesty
More than any other trait, you must watch out for a man who is open and honest. The thing about honesty is that it’s a sign of security. What you see is what you get, and there is absolutely nothing to hide. Don't be deceived watch out a men would pretend and start being real—
He must be real with his strengths, his weaknesses, his struggles. Real with his hopes, his dreams and his fears. Real with who he is actually as against who he who he wants to be. A man who has nothing to hide becomes the safe place in which a woman can hide her heart. Now that’s straight-up godly.

Purity
We live in a society that has fooled us into thinking that women have no control over their emotions and men have no control over their eyes. I’m a firm believer that this is a lie straight from the pit of hell. It stickens me to interact with women who expect their men to fall prey to lust, cheating and adultery, as if that’s just part of being a man. There is no doubt that we live in a world full of sexual temptation and struggles, but God will always give a godly man victory over his entire being—his minds, hearts and bodies. True masculinity comes when a man has enough honor and respect for the woman in his life to say no to temptations. True masculinity comes from a man who knows his weaknesses, but sets himself up to succeed. True masculinity is found in a man who says no to the expectations of this world and lives for a higher calling.

Strength
There is nothing better than a man who exudes strength. Not the muscle-rippling kind of strength, but strength of mind, heart and spirit. A strength that comes from a man who knows what he believes and stands firm for what’s right. A strength in recognizing right from wrong and confessing when he has given into the latter. A strength that is confident enough to do right, choose right and be right. In this day of compromise, you should be looking out for a man who is strong enough to stand his ground and hold on to his values, his beliefs and, most importantly, his God.

Compassion
A man who strives to right the wrongs around him—and the wrongs within him. Watch out for men of compassion, tenderness and love because therein we will always find the heart of Jesus. He is a man who will allow his heart to be moved and then allow his actions to follow his heart. A man who strives for healing, restoration and resolution.

Humility
What raises a man up more than any other earthly thing is his ability to humble himself. A real man doesn’t need to talk up who he is, because his life does that for him. He can put away the talk, because a man of humility is focused so much more on his walk. He is quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry because he has put away his “rights” for the right to be selfless, loving and full of grace.

Now, Ladies, it’s time to expect more from men, and then, to waitpatiently until you see these qualities at work in his life. Don’t you dare settle for less.

MEMORIES & EMOTIONS

1. Memory and emotions are essential to humanity and one of the essence of life, of without them we are reduced to a beast, this two things if not mastered and used wisely can break or mar an individual but when used well would result to a great moment on a planet which it is a necessity and a requirement for being human. Like, love, hate , both smiles and anger wouldn't have been in existence without emotions and birthdays, anniversaries, good times and bad times wouldn't have been remembered without memories, likewise good people and bad people wouldn't have been differentiated without emotions. We remember what they say or did because we have memories and we remember how we felt in those moments because of emotions. We needed time because we had memories, we keep to time just because of it. Mistakes are remembered because we have memories and regrets wouldn't have been glaring without our memories still intact. We know and remember because we have memories. Our memory and our emotions work in hand because memories remember things and emotions help in adding colour of how those things and moments make us feel. You may not know what you want but you know it when you see it because you have emotions. We believe because we feel. For example: What makes a friendship special is the way each one remembers the other when they are apart. They miss the talks,the laughs and the time they spent together. Life changes,memories don't.

23 IRREFUTABLE CODES GUYS USE IN CHEATING ON YOU: EVERY LADY NEED TO KNOW

"It's not how you play the game, it's how the game plays you". I have been an authority in Relationship realm for quiet a decade and sure will know the antics played on you by guys. Based on reactions, feeling and concerns poured out by the especially ladies I thought it wise you know what it is that is in the guys head. And they come in handy in form of codes: They are codes to aid you do step up your game.

•  CODE 1: Most times Guys flow well with gals they naturally have feelings for; not of love but of lust. Learn to know when he is serious and when he is playing mind games with you. 

•  CODE 2: when they keep stirring at the sensitive parts of you all the time, its time to run because in his head he is thinking that one day he will have a part of your pound of flesh. 

•  CODE 3: He gain control over you with his soft tempting words, like "pass the night now, come to my house, it is too late to go". Make your password(standards) cheap and he will tell his friends how valueless you are. Let him break your defenses easily and he will decide if he want to make it a one night stand; carry yourself like a queen, the way you see yourself is practically the way he will take you. 

•  Code 4: Guys are creatures of God with masculine gender and also with a hard but fragile heart yet be coded enough to know the shy guy, the play boy, the pretenders, the mommy's boy, rich kid, systematic guy, the gay boys, the raz boys, the godly man and the sharp guys, they have their different ways of approaching you and all of them have different needs you will serve them. Code 5: Your desperate "needs" leak out of literally little and honest conservations and that is what circles his plans. Needs like desperately in need of intimacy, money, jobs, need to roll with big and influential men, using him to raise an ego and power; sex; and marriage etc That is the foundations of what he uses to build your illusion or reality. We will always hide our objective but carry out our plan. Information is our source of power don't spill it all. 

•  CODE 6: It is true that little escapes our notice, because we are very visual people yet it would be great you know that there are two roads, the first leads to the "land of maybe", and wide is its gate and many are treading its wide path. The other leads to the "promise land" where rings are being handed to selected few and least occupied it because you abuse the fact that guys are attracted by what they see. 

•  Code 7: Just like Inyanya, for most men all they want is your waist, and like Wizkid they want to see your naked body sleeping on their bed...... Guys believe this is 21st century when they get your apple product cheap in no time; its working for them anyway. 

•  Code 8: Don't be a fool, most men are professional in keeping your head in the cloud and they enjoy seeing you waste your time. They will distract you with fornication, external pleasures, money, material things and games so you may never be one with the oneness of it all. You can't reason well to do right until you are old, unattractive and weary.

•  Code 9: They attract you with time, they take what they want in time and they leave most times, in all wasting your precious time. 

•  CODE 10: Guys tread on your fears; we sense your deepest fear and we take advantage of it. With your fear we will control all aspects of your lives and tell you what to think and how. Most times you have a page in your life that would rather remain closed than being unveiled, because you fear the ghost it will raise, and these fears reflect in your behaviors without you knowing it. Face your fears, free yourself of its bondage when you still have the time. Boldly let him know you have a past he have to deal with before it haunts back at you after quite some time. 

•  CODE 11: We know about such things as cheap gals, they are everywhere: in the internet, in our offices, in our vicinity and in our schools. Better don't sabotage gal-hood by labeling yourself a cheap gal in deed and in conscience. Don't be the next cheap gal he has in mind to run to after he is done with Caro. Let him know things just changed. 

•  CODE 12: Even when you claim tough to get, we know how to use a sophiscated cheap gal to get you jealous and induce you to us. We will accomplish this by using jealousy as our ally and affluence as our friend. 

•  CODE 13: We will often times stand above the relative field of your experience. Meaning that we know things that make most chic appear loose and cheap; it might not necessary be the intense desire for cash. it may most times be trying to be somebody else you're not; A thinking that you don't have anything to loose; dreaded pursuit for vengeance against men; and not knowing what you want. We explore these reasons to our advantage. 

•  CODE 14: Most of us are masters in the art of unfulfilled promises, while some of us will never want to commit to a woman. Many had promised their gal friends they must get pregnant before they marry them to no avail. 

•  CODE 15: We love one but want to play all. Guys at times do keep their rose flower in a secured garden well guarded as no one will get to pluck it as they flirt around to come back to that special one later. 

•  CODE 16: We will deceive you into accepting laws such as "this is men's world" and that will steal the little freedom you will have. The truth that love goes along with freedom will be hidden in your face, so close you will not be able to focus on it until its too late.

•  CODE 17: We had established some believes from time immemorial (beliefs like: all guys are the same),your mind will be bound by this beliefs shooting down your intuitive power because what you believe is what you are empowered to become. The hate will blind some of you totally, and never shall you see how it conflicts and emerge as a ruler over you. We plant such things as "You dare not trust any guy even the realest man". When all is in place, the reality we will have created for you will own you even when you manage to get married.

•  CODE 18: We know how you always put pleasure first, we know how much you want to explore your world and godly men are never and option because they can't make your world go round, they won't hand you the pleasure you yearn for; godly men are never appealing to you because they make your legs feel tied but after the shape guys are done with you; the reality you now have will change your perception about the world and how you see the guys. The male folks and the female folks are partners in ignorance, promoting the heart break games. 

•  CODE 19: Men are always very visual people, so there is no question men will check out a woman’s clothes, the way she walks and talk, her makeup, her feet, her hands, her daintiness—little escapes our notice. A too-sophisticated, coiffured, and made-up appearance, with glittering jewels and extravagant clothes, reveals not the spontaneous radiance of a God-centered personality, but the studied, artificial image of a self-centered individuality. Clothes and appearance are most powerful nonverbal communicators not only of our socioeconomic status, but also of our moral values. We are what we wear. This means that the outward appearance is an important index of the kind of woman you are and spells how you will be treated. A confident and intelligent woman is incredibly attractive, no matter what mold she fits in as far as she is moderate in make-up and dressing; of excellent character and disciplined, she will top his hierarchy of need for a healthy marriage and home. 

•  CODE 20: Many times men are interested in the seeds inside of you and not you, sometimes he is fishing for a male child; he gets you pregnant before hand and hang out to see the baby you will give birth to. A boy will hand you a ticket to becoming his wife. Beware!!!! 

•  CODE 21: sometimes a man wants to tailor you to suit what his parents needs not literally what he wants and at the long run he might not like the woman you've become. Get to find out what is it he wants and what his parents want. Separate the two; he might love you to play both roles in his reality show. 

•  CODE 22: You are in the dark wondering why guys are so cruel but one thing you don't want to hear is when a man align his spirit with that of God his true worth becomes manifest in beauty, power and in character but when otherwise he is just like an animal that thinks and will always cheat on you even with your neighbor's maid without minding his pedigree. When a man is not in Christ don't expect much from him. He is cruel because he is not godly; he lack values and discipline. There are very few self-righteous men who are willing to be faithful anyway but without God in a man's life he has no belief system he can point to as a guiding force in his life, then it’s a problem. After all, what moral barometer does he answer to if not to God? What’s going to make him even consider being loyal to you?

•  CODE 23: You will always want to see the Anaconda yourself: You are so adventurous and always want to see the end of a playboy, he always have his ways but after jolly telling you how bad he is yet you want to try. Though some of the stories where not true but to be on a safer side, research about a guy before accepting him; even if you are on an adventure; watch out for big snakes.