Wednesday, July 23, 2014
TEN SIMPLE TRUTHS SMART PEOPLE NEGLECT
Some of the smartest people I know continuously struggle to get ahead
because they forget to address a few simple truths that collectively
govern our potential to make progress. So here’s a quick reminder:
n our potential to make progress. So here’s a quick reminder:
#1 – Education and intelligence accomplish nothing without action.
It doesn’t matter if you have a genius IQ and a PhD in Quantum
Physics, you can’t change anything or make any sort of real-world
progress without taking action. There’s a huge difference between
knowing how to do something and actually doing it. Knowledge and
intelligence are both useless without action. It’s as simple as that. For
some practical guidance on taking action, I highly recommend The
Now Habit .
#2 – Happiness and success are two different things.
I know an extremely savvy businesswoman who made almost a
million dollars online last year. Every entrepreneur I know considers
her to be wildly successful. But guess what? A few days ago, out of
the blue, she told me that she’s depressed. Why? “I’m burnt out and
lonely. I just haven’t taken enough time for myself lately,” she said.
“Wow!” I thought. “One of the most successful people I know isn’t
happy.”
I also know a surfer who surfs almost all day, every day on the beach
in front of our condo complex in San Diego. He’s one of the most
lighthearted, optimistic guys I’ve ever met – always smiling from ear
to ear. But he sleeps in a van he co-owns with another surfer and
they both frequently panhandle tourists for money. So while I can’t
deny that this man seems happy, I wouldn’t classify his life as a
success story.
“What will make me happy?” and “What will make me successful?”
are two of the most important questions you can ask yourself. But
they are two different questions.
#3 – Everyone runs their own business.
No matter how you make a living or who you think you work for, you
only work for one person, yourself. The big question is: What are you
selling, and to whom? Even when you have a full-time, salaried,
‘Corporate America’ position, you are still running your own
business. You are selling one unit of your existence (an hour of your
life) at a set price (the associated fraction of your salary) to a customer
(your employer).
So how can you simultaneously save your time and increase your
profit? The answer is slightly different for everyone. But it’s an
answer you should be seeking. The 4-Hour Workweek is a good read
on this topic.
#4 – Having too many choices interferes with decision making.
Here in the 21st century where information moves at the speed of
light and opportunities for innovation seem endless, we have an
abundant array of choices when it comes to designing our lives and
careers. But sadly, an abundance of choice often leads to indecision,
confusion and inaction.
Several business and marketing studies have shown that the more
product choices a consumer is faced with, the less products they
typically buy. After all, narrowing down the best product from a pool
of three choices is certainly a lot easier than narrowing down the best
product from a pool of three hundred choices. If the purchasing
decision is tough to make, most people will just give up.
So if you’re selling a product line, keep it simple. And if you’re trying
to make a decision about something in your life, don’t waste all your
time evaluating every last detail of every possible option. Choose
something that you think will work and give it a shot. If it doesn’t
work out, choose something else and keep pressing forward.
#5 – All people possess dimensions of success and dimensions of
failure.
This point is somewhat related to point #2 on happiness and success,
but it stands strong on its own as well…
Trying to be perfect is a waste of time and energy. Perfection is an
illusion.
All people, even our idols, are multidimensional. Powerful business
men, polished musicians, bestselling authors, and even our own
parents all have dimensions of success and dimensions of failure
present in their lives.
Our successful dimensions usually encompass the things we spend the
most time doing. We are successful in these dimensions because of
our prolonged commitment to them. This is the part of our lives we
want others to see – the successful part that holds our life’s work. It’s
the notion of putting our best foot forward. It’s the public persona
we envision as our personal legacy: “The Successful ABC” or “The
Award Winning XYZ.”
But behind whichever polished storyline we publically promote, there
lies a multi-dimensional human being with a long list of unprofessed
failures. Sometimes this person is a bad husband or wife. Sometimes
this person laughs at the expense of others. And sometimes this
person merely takes their eyes off the road and rear-ends the car in
front of them.
#6 – Every mistake you make is progress.
Mistakes teach you important lessons. Every time you make one,
you’re one step closer to your goal. The only mistake that can truly
hurt you is choosing to do nothing simply because you’re too scared
to make a mistake.
So don’t hesitate – don’t doubt yourself
In life, it’s rarely about
getting a chance; it’s about taking a chance. You’ll never be 100%
sure it will work, but you can always be 100% sure doing nothing
won’t work. Most of the time you just have to go for it!
And no matter how it turns out, it always ends up just the way it
should be. Either you succeed or you learn something. Win-Win.
Remember, if you never act, you will never know for sure, and you
will be left standing in the same spot forever.
#7 – People can be great at doing things they don’t like to do.
Although I’m not suggesting that you choose a career or trade you
dislike, I’ve heard way too many smart people say something like, “In
order to be great at what you do, you have to like what you do.” This
just isn’t true.
A good friend of mine is a public accountant. He has told me on
numerous occasions that he dislikes his job – “that it bores him to
death.” But he frequently gets raises and promotions. At the age of
28, out of nearly a thousand Jr. Accountants in his division, he’s one
of only two who were promoted to be Sr. Accountants this past year.
Why? Because even though he doesn’t like doing it, he’s good at what
he does.
I could come up with dozens of other examples just like this, but I’ll
spare you the details. Just realize that if someone dedicates enough
time and attention to perfecting a skill or trade, they can be insanely
good at doing something they don’t like to do. For an insightful read
in this department, I highly recommend The Talent Code .
#8 – The problems we have with others are typically more about us.
Quite often, the problems we have with others – our spouse, parents,
siblings, etc. – don’t really have much to do with them at all. Because
many of the problems we think we have with them we subconsciously
created in our own mind. Maybe they did something in the past that
touched on one of our fears or insecurities. Or maybe they didn’t do
something that we expected them to do. In either case, problems like
these are not about the other person, they’re about us.
And that’s okay. It simply means these little predicaments will be
easier to solve. We are, after all, in charge of our own decisions. We
get to decide whether we want to keep our head cluttered with events
from the past, or instead open our minds to the positive realities
unfolding in front of us.
All we need is the willingness to look at things a little differently –
letting go of ‘what was’ and ‘what should have been,’ and instead
focusing our energy on ‘what is’ and ‘what could be possible.’
#9 – Emotional decisions are rarely good decisions.
Decisions driven by heavy emotion are typically misguided reactions
rather than educated judgments. These reactions are the byproduct of
minimal amounts of conscious thought and primarily based on
momentary ‘feelings’ instead of mindful awareness.
The best advice here is simple: Don’t let your emotions trump your
intelligence. Slow down and think things through before you make
any life-changing decisions.
#10 – You will never feel 100% ready when an opportunity arises.
The number one thing I persistently see holding smart people back is
their own reluctance to accept an opportunity simply because they
don’t think they’re ready. In other words, they believe they require
additional knowledge, skill, experience, etc. before they can aptly
partake in the opportunity. Sadly, this is the kind of thinking that
stifles personal growth.
The truth is nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity
arises. Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow
emotionally and intellectually. They force us to stretch ourselves and
our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at
first. And when we don’t feel comfortable, we don’t feel ready.
Just remember that significant moments of opportunity for personal
growth and development will come and go throughout your lifetime.
If you are looking to make positive changes in your life you will need
to embrace these moments of opportunity even though you will never
feel 100% ready for them.
From Marc and Angel
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